Screen time is one of the most common flashpoints when a new carer joins the family. Kids are quick to test whether the rules still apply, and an au pair who is unsure of your wishes can end up as the “easy yes”. A little clarity up front keeps everyone on the same page.
Why it matters
Children thrive on consistency. If screen rules change depending on who is in charge, you get confusion, negotiation and the occasional meltdown. Aligning your au pair with your approach protects your kids' routine — and your au pair from being put on the spot.
Decide your rules first
Before you brief your au pair, get clear as parents on what you actually want. Think about:
- When: allowed times and screen-free zones, like meals, homework and the lead-up to bed.
- How much: a daily or weekly limit that suits each child's age.
- What: which apps, games or shows are okay, and which are off-limits.
- Devices: whose devices can be used, and where.
Write them down
Put your rules in your house handbook or a simple note your au pair can refer back to. A written reference removes any doubt and is much easier than trying to remember a conversation from week one.
Explain the why
Your au pair will apply the rules more confidently if they understand the reasoning — better sleep, more active play, family time at meals. Sharing the why turns a list of rules into a shared goal.
Back them up and stay consistent
When your au pair enforces a limit, support them — especially if the kids appeal to you for a different answer. Knowing you have their back makes it far easier for them to hold the line, and teaches the children that the rule is the rule whoever is in charge.
Lead by example
Finally, remember that kids copy what they see. Family screen-free times work best when the adults — parents and au pair alike — follow them too. Agree the approach together and your au pair becomes a partner in the routine, not the soft touch.